Internal System For Sale

It’s time for a new internal system. The old one is far too limiting and it can’t handle the traffic. As we go thru this work On our DID and the associated traumae, splinters are waking up. They Are coming out of hiding and they want their stories to be heard. There are hundreds of litle splinters in here and the traffic is an absolute gridlock on the current system.

Here’s how it has always worked: Weaver sits on top with a loom. Her job is to throw colors into the loom at the right times. Colors represent the specific coping skill that is required at any given moment.

The weaver is used to working without questions or comments or with any splinters that have any free will for themselves. Martial law. Things have run relatively smoothly and successfully for them for nearly 50 yeArs with this organizational system and it has rarely completely failed on us. But it’t time foe somehing else.

The Weaver’s first reaction to getting feedback of any kind was to say screw you guys you wanna deal with it go right ahead, deal away. Chaos reigned because there was nobody to step in and keep the loom running. So nobody ate for days, somebody carved “bitch on her body in Morse code…well, it was all just a mess.

So. Weaver having felt she mDe her point has come back. She has agreed to be more communicative in her plans and to accept more feedback from the various splints rather than to just force colors to come out to work.

But I is a system that has outgrown it’s usefulness. Oh, we will always need the weaver. She has after all kept us alive. She knows what’s appropriate and when. She’s our first responder.

But there is no opportunity for sharing of information in this way. Colors are fixed by hue, there is no wiggle room. And because each splinter is it’s own distinct color there is no mechanism for them to share information or even get together on whatever Idea X.

We need greater elasticity, teamwork. The days of autocratic rule no longer serve us. Of being just a lost coping machine. We are human and that is going to require everybody’s cooperation to the healing process.

So, we’re shopping for a new internal system. Last night there was something attractive about the Curling methodology. Yes, as in Olympic Curling hah. The teamwork approach was appealing, that several little jobs were going on at once. The stone (the thing they throw down the ice) seemed to be us as we live our life and the Sweepers helped to influence the curve the stone takes after it is set free. What can I say we are grasping at straws here hah.

So. We have an internal system for sale that is in good order. It just doesn’t fit any longer. And if anybody out there is getting rid of theirs, lemme know we are in the market.



  1. Ravin said,

    February 23, 2010 at 11:17 am

    We’re not selling ours but we can give you the foundation ideas see if it might be what you’re looking for.

    We had a room just inside the eyes (Squabble Room) where everyone could come and talk, share and discuss. There we made decisions that were as democratic as possible. It worked for decades, our son’s death shut everything down.

    Just of late we built a Sukkah ( ).

    Our Sukkah is a room made of live peach trees. It’s a ‘safe’ place where folks can come and talk to each other. There’s not quite the same ‘rule’ as with the Squabble Room, but it’s better then the complete separation that had fallen over us.


    • February 23, 2010 at 11:37 am

      Huh we’ll run that across the message board, sounds similar. There really is no spatial safety but this is intruiging. Thanks. Glad you have a place to be again

  2. me said,

    February 24, 2010 at 7:37 am

    ahhhhh ok, now i gottit re the weaver

    • February 24, 2010 at 7:57 am

      Yeah, just not elastic enough. Weaver needs strict discipline to function an we have a very unruly group here hah. It’ll form itself soon I think

      • me said,

        February 24, 2010 at 12:40 pm

        i guess the weaver’s no good with lycra

      • February 24, 2010 at 2:08 pm

        Actually the colors are made up of all kinds of fabric, chains, etc. Depending. Altho I don’t think there IS much Lycra happening ha;)

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