Ten Clarifying Words

In this blogpost I will be collecting a series of Ten Clarifying Words. These are strings of ten words that send a strong message. All are presently of my own writing. Most have as subject my journey thru c-PTSD trauma and dissociation. Some word strings summarize a longer sentence uttered at me or by me or around me. Others summarize five-year discussions with various shrinks/therapists.

It is my attempt here to give quick snapshots of a healing nature. Or just to make you laugh. This list will be added to as I come up with new ones. Enjoy. If you’d like to be on the list, for now just leave a comment as to bow to ge ahold of you. Take care and be safe.

I will describe safety 1000 times if that’s what you need.

You’re dangerous. That’s because you cannot deal with non-threatening people

This is a collaboration. Not just you or just me

I am committed to this process with you. Yes, really

5…back…4 rest .. 3 sleep .. 2 sleeping ..one asleep

It’s not funny you know. Why do you always laugh?

Dissociated people have gains then emotional aftershocks, like time delay

Who are you? I’m nobody I do not matter. Why?

Jesus I am a mess. Yes I really get that.

I don’t know how to feel. That’s right, you dissociate.

You live in a body. You do know that, right?

So who is yelling at me? Nome of your business.

Some things can’t be forgiven. That’s right that’s your choice.

I feel a lack of connection. Yes, you’re not connected.

This is all so confusing. I know it will be.

You are very courageous. No, I just can’t shut up.

Your paintings are breathtaking. Painter is sharing her skills

There was a whole me. it’s so young, can’t walk

red thinks we hurt you. It’s my job to self-protect

Timebomb may go off. That is in your power.

You will start to feel when you’re ready for it

Who am I talking to? I really have no idea

I’m glad we can talk about this without self-injury

I feel way too much way too little. I know

I will sit with you as long as it takes

You so piss me off. I’m glad you told me.

You can rip my heart to shreds. But I won’t

Everyone’s not an abuser. I know you don’t believe that.

Love this painting. I know who are you?Don’t know.

You are being compassionate with yourself. That’s what it is?

Some of this will be brutal. No I’m not afraid.

I have no internal system. I know, we’ll find one.

You aren’t doing this alone I am with you now.

You can’t scare me off. I am committed to you.

Wolfpack40 I am more than my past, I am my future.

fromthesamesky. If you feel it you’re entitled to express it here

Ravin. Yelling at the Universe only gives you a sore throat.

So cool, thank you hons.


More later. If you want to add ten clarifying words, just leave them hher in comments. I will be updating this list regularly.



  1. March 13, 2010 at 10:50 am

    If you feel it you are entitled to express it here

    • March 13, 2010 at 11:00 am

      Hi can I post this here? Love it!

      • March 14, 2010 at 2:03 pm

        Yep, but credit my counsellor not me! One my favourite things she has ever said … ever said … although her exact words were ‘if you feel it you are entitled to express it in my room’.

  2. Ravin said,

    March 13, 2010 at 4:03 pm

    Yelling at the Universe only give you a sore throat.

    Trying is all that counts. Really, we don’t have to be perfect?

  3. Ravin said,

    March 14, 2010 at 8:55 am

    OMG Tweet isn’t working! How will we live!

    Okay those prolly aren’t what you had in mind but they are clarifying. ; }

    *off to grumble some more*

  4. Sarah Olson said,

    March 16, 2010 at 8:52 am

    If it’s your last hope, why not take a chance? (Said by T, about therapy, at a very dark place.)

    You’ve always needed someone in your corner. Be that person.

    • March 16, 2010 at 9:07 am

      Be that person…hmmmm. Have always considered myself the enemy. Yummy food for thought, thank you hon!

  5. March 21, 2010 at 10:08 pm

    If you want change you have to create change

    Damn thats only 9 words! Totally awesome post and blog.

  6. Scarylarry1134 said,

    March 28, 2010 at 5:21 pm

    There is noone that cares when you scream in hell.

  7. May 18, 2010 at 11:25 am

    […] by hopefortrauma This post was inspired by my fellow survivor and friend. Splinterdones wrote “Ten Clarifying Words” back in March and I have read it numerous times a day since. It has helped me immensely to get […]

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